Newsletter
Amazon.com
About Us | Submitting a Book for Review | Write to Us          
head_main HOME
  • home
  • review
  • feature
  • author
  • about
  • excerpt
  • guide
  • search
  • future
  • award
  • bestseller
  • wom
  • authorwebsite
  • faithfulteens
  • newsletter
left_top



left_top

THE POWER OF AN ORDINARY LIFE
Harvey Hook
Tyndale House Publishers
Christian Living
ISBN-10: 1414313446
ISBN-13: 9781414313443

About the Book
Reading Group Guide

1
YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE

s e r v i n g   t h e   w o r l d   o u t s i d e   o f   y o u r s e l f

What makes you qualified to help a person
who has been knocked down in a car accident? There’s only one qualification, that you happened to be there… to call the ambulance. That’s it. When you’re lying down there, choking on
the road, you’re not gonna ask: “Excuse me,
have you got a qualification?”

--- Bono


“Look at me, look at my eyes. I am already dead.”

He was on his way to court, uncuffed, to face charges of rape and sodomy. Instead, he brutally assaulted the police officer who was escorting him, took her gun, and went looking for the judge. He was not in a hurry. He ran into a deputy, handcuffed him, and locked him in a closet. He went to the judge’s chambers, handcuffed an attorney and a secretary, and secured them there. He walked calmly to the courtroom, shot and killed the judge and his court reporter, and then killed a deputy sheriff on the street outside while making his escape. On the run, and the focus of the largest manhunt in Georgia history, he confronted a fed­eral agent in his home, took his gun and his life, and stole his truck.

He was a dead man… just waiting to die.

She was a twenty-six-year-old single mom who was working as a waitress and taking classes at a medical-technician school. Her five-year-old daughter was in the custody of an aunt. Four years earlier, her husband had died in her arms, the victim of a knife fight and stabbing. She was familiar with pain, failure, and despair. As a troubled teen, she had used hard drugs and had been arrested for various crimes. As a young adult, she was charged with drunken driving and assault.1

Then her life got turned around. She experienced love, hope, and acceptance at a drug rehabilitation center. She found God’s forgiveness and discovered a reason for living beyond her present meager existence and the tragic memories of her past. Her life began to change as she focused on loving her daughter. She reached outside of herself through the compelling pull of God’s love and discovered the satisfying fulfillment of simply loving one other person.

In spite of her failures, broken dreams, and dashed hopes, this once troubled soul, the most ordinary of people, somehow changed the world. Something new was born in her when she allowed herself to receive God’s love and the acceptance of others. It was not a dramatic, immediate change-of-life experience, but a growing calm, an increased perception that God was aware of her. As she cared for her daughter, her spirit softened, she experienced a sense of hope, and she felt that she had a reason to live.

Her reason for living was about to be tested… in the most extreme way.

When fugitive Brian Nichols placed a gun to Ashley Smith’s ribs and forced his way into her apartment, she thought her life was over. She later said her first thought was that Nichols was going to strangle her. Instead, he took her into the bathroom, tied her up with masking tape, an extension cord, and a curtain, put a towel over her head, and took a shower.

Later, he wanted to talk. He untied Ashley and began asking her questions. She talked about the things that mattered most to her. She spoke of her daughter, Paige, and the tragic loss of her husband. She told Brian about her new faith in God, and the disappointment Paige would feel if she didn’t show up for a visit on Saturday morning.

“Can I go and see Paige?” she asked.

“No.”

Looking for some source of comfort, Ashley asked if she could read.

Brian allowed her to get her Bible and a copy of Rick Warren’s book The Purpose Driven Life. She read aloud from chapter 33. Brian asked her to stop and read it again, so she did:

We serve God by serving others. In our self-serving culture with its “me-first” mentality, acting like a servant is not a popular concept. Jesus, however, measured greatness in terms of service, not status. God determines your greatness by how many people you serve, not how many people serve you. God shaped you for service, not for self-centeredness. Without a servant’s heart, you will be tempted to misuse your shape for personal gain.2

Brian was moved by these words and began to talk again. Later, Ashley described what he said to her during those tense yet intimate moments. “He thought that I was an angel sent from God. And that I was his sister and he was my brother in Christ. And that he was lost and God led him right to me to tell him that he had hurt a lot of people. And the families --- the people --- to let him know how they felt, because I had gone through it. He looked at pictures of my family. He asked me if he could look at them and hold them.”3

A bond, a trust --- an unlikely connection --- was developing between Ashley and Brian.

Brian hid his guns and asked Ashley to help him hide the truck he had stolen from the federal agent he had killed. She drove her car while he drove the truck. He allowed her to take her cell phone, but she didn’t call the police. She wanted to further build his trust in her, so she made no attempt to escape. She wanted him to surrender, she did not want anyone else to get hurt, and she very much wanted to see Paige.

They drove back to Ashley’s apartment. Brian said something about being hungry, and Ashley cooked him breakfast.

He was overwhelmed. “Wow --- real butter, pancakes?”

They talked some more, about God and their lives, and Brian agreed to let Ashley see Paige. He gave her forty dollars and offered to rehang the curtain he had taken down to tie her with.

She offered him hope and a reason to live.

“You’re here in my apartment for some reason. You got out of the courthouse with police everywhere, and you don’t think that’s a miracle? You don’t think you’re supposed to be sitting here right in front of me listening to me tell you, you know, your reason here? Your miracle could be that you need to --- you need to be caught for this. You need to go to prison and you need to share the word of God with them, with all the prisoners there.”4

Brian asked Ashley what she thought he should do.

She told him, “I think you should turn yourself in. If you don’t, lots more people are going to get hurt. And you’re probably going to die.”

In the end, the bloody shoot-out with the police never happened. There was no kicked-in door with a super-cop taking command of the situation and overpowering the criminal, like in the movies. It was not dramatic, and there was no struggle. There was no fight left in the man.

If anything, it was anticlimactic.

Just before noon on the day after his escape from the courthouse, Brian Nichols gave himself up to the police, waving a white T-shirt in surrender. There was no need for drama, because a quiet work had begun in Brian Nichols’s heart. It was the work of a broken woman who was willing to reveal her fears and her painful past. She was transparent enough to talk about her love for her precious daughter and her new relationship with God.

m


Such stories don’t usually end this way. Many times the hostages die. So what made the difference in this case?

How did this young woman capture the heart of a killer who had evaded authorities for twenty-six hours while beating or shooting anyone who got in his way?

The ordinary and the commonplace made the difference, not the extraordinary.

Wouldn’t you think that Ashley Smith would be the least qualified person to make a difference in the life of a killer? Wouldn’t you think that a trained counselor, minister, or reformed ex-con would have been the expert of choice to intervene?

But Ashley was the one who made the difference, and I believe that you can make a difference in your world as well.

m


Three things in this remarkable story are common elements in the lives of people who make a difference in the world.

First, Ashley made a choice to redeem the immediate moment. She acted in a way that brought good to everyone caught in this grim situation. She was nearly overwhelmed with fear, but she pushed through her anxiety. Despite the crushing weight of life-threatening circumstances, she chose obedience over fear and hope over hopelessness. She responded to Brian in a way that rescued and redeemed him from his bondage to pain, hatred, violence, and despair.

Making a difference begins with a choice --- often a hard choice --- to act for the good of something or someone beyond ourselves. I call this “redemptive action.”

Second, Ashley developed a relationship. She connected with Brian Nichols on a personal level by sharing how her tragic life had turned around. She told her story in a real and authentic way, offered him hope, and made him pancakes with real butter. Though, on one level, she may have felt hatred toward him, she did not preach condemnation to him. She cared for him, even though he was a brutal murderer.

This was a “reconciling relationship.”

Making a difference always involves a personal, real connection with someone whom we may not even know, like, or choose to be with. Reconciliation brings hatred and hostilities to an end and replaces them with harmonious relationships.

By the time Ashley left to visit Paige on Saturday morning, Brian had begun to find something that he had lost long ago. It was the beginning of restoration to a fellow human being that he had once thought of killing, and to the God that she reintroduced him to. Out of Ashley’s brokenness, and from the seeds of hope planted in her by God, he discovered his own hope of finding God and of being reconciled with him.

Third, Ashley encouraged Brian to seek spiritual restoration. This is the natural conclusion to taking redemptive action and building a reconciling relationship. This is most powerful when expressed though our brokenness and our connection with God.

When Ashley chose to act “redemptively,” she related genuinely to Brian. When Brian encountered an authentic, non-condemning relationship, his heart was able to respond to Ashley and to the God she was getting to know. In the end, she helped to set Brian free to begin a path of spiritual restoration.

I call this “restoration to God and to your fellow man.”

Seven gut-wrenching hours in the lives of a single mom and a wanted murderer --- from 2:00 a.m. to 9:00 a.m. --- was all it took for God to transform the ordinary into the extraordinary.

That was God’s plan for their lives.

God has a plan for your life as well.

Will you discover it and take hold of it?

m


You are here for a purpose. God did not place you in life’s audience merely to observe, nor did he give you an audience for whom you must perform. He placed you on center stage in the midst of the world he created, exactly where he wanted you. People, circumstances, triumph, and tragedy will act upon you.

What will you do?

Will you become the difference maker that God designed you to be?

Someone once said that the future belongs to those who live intensely in the present. Was that person talking about you?

Am I expecting you to have already arrived? No, not at all. Like you, I am still on the journey, and so is Ashley Smith. She is a recovering drug user, and at the point that she met Brian Nichols, she was on the road to getting clean, but was still having a hard time letting go of drugs.

I was very interested in reading the story that came with the following headline:

H o s t a g e   G a v e   G u n m a n   D r u g s

Yes, Ashley Smith, the unlikely angel, gave drugs to Brian Nichols.

When I read that, my first thought was, That is not the profile of a difference maker. The opening story of my book has been destroyed! What will I do now? Then I took a deep breath, looked deeper, read Ashley’s book, and watched her TV interviews before drawing a final conclusion.

Here’s what I discovered.

Brian Nichols asked for marijuana and Ashley didn’t have any, but she had a small amount of methamphetamine. She thought that by giving Brian drugs she might curry favor. When he asked her to take them as well, she declined. If she was going to die, she decided, she was going to die drug free, for the sake of her daughter. That’s when Ashley finally kicked her habit. She couldn’t bear the thought of disappointing Paige one more time by having traces of drugs in her blood at the time of her death. If not taking the drugs meant that Brian killed her, she was willing to accept it.

She was finally willing to be clean at any cost.

She had discovered a reason to live, and if it cost her life to love her daughter in this way, she was willing to trust the outcome to God.


    r e f l e c t i o n s


Take a few moments to reflect on these questions and write down your thoughts.

The insights you gain by meditating on each response will help you personalize the principles of this chapter.

What are the “possibilities within” that you want to discover?

What is one small thing you will do today to make your ordinary life extraordinary?

Where does God fit in your equation to “change the world?”

Excerpted from THE POWER OF AN ORDINARY LIFE © Copyright 2017 by Harvey Hook. Reprinted with permission by Tyndale House Publishers. All rights reserved.

Click here now to buy this book from Amazon.com.